I was a victim of a dating crypto confidence scam.
I met JAMES PAUL on Badoo dating app in March 2023 and we quickly moved to Facebook messenger chats. There were a handful of audio chats (where his english was really bad i bareeeely understood him but he finished most sentences with “ja” so I figured, yea Swedish, it checks out) until he decided he didn’t like using the phone because 1) men aren’t into that 2) hes Swedish and is still learning the English language 3) he just had his tonsils removed and is sore and recovering.
He quickly turned the relationship serious and while I resisted, I was eventually worn down and won over by his charm and doting and loving affections. He said he was anout to move to Canberra from Sydney and that he had some business to attend to in Perth and that once the trip was over he’d be in my loving arms. The dates were pushed back a couple of times.
During this 2 month online love affair, he wanted me to earn money so that I could be taken care of and to pay my bills. He showed me a screenshot of his earnings in the online mall and wanted me to invest and become a merchant. I resisted. He got incredibly upset and said that He was only trying to offer me something to better my situation and that if I didn’t want his advice then he will never offer again. After a week of frustration and resistance, I finally gave in and created my merchant account on shopeecn.xyz .
I had to deposit money into a crypto wallet, turn my aud into usdt and then transfer that into the online shopping mall account. I did this and soon started making profits. Slow, but steady. James felt that I should take my financial freedom seriously and asked me to look into getting a personal loan so that I could invest more into it. I said I couldnt do that and so it was left alone for a while.
Then he said he was busy learning a new method to make money and that it was alot faster than before. He said once he learned it well hed bring me in. By then, I didnt have the funds to invest so he transferred $500usdt into my vgp account so that I could trade crpyto in this new opportunity. I played with it and lost it all. I waa devastated and he showed so much concern and care for me that I thought “this guy is a saint!” He then transferred $1000usdt into my account and then later I was able to deposit my own money to further the profits as he said “it takes money to make money”. He had an agent friend who was giving him insider tips and we would trade almost 3-4 times a week. My small investment slowly turned into $70k. James waa such a giver that when I said I disnt have money for petrol until next paycheck, he transferred money into my binance account from his cold wallet. Awwww.
The time was nearing him to leave Perth and Sydney and move to Canberra, but work was very busy. He worked longer and longer hours. One day he didnt msg me at all. I was quite cross about that and he apologised and said he didnt look at his phone all day. The next day he said he was miserable from all the work, that he loved me…and then I never heard from him again. That was a week ago today. Tomorrow was supposed to be the due date of him moving here.
I thought, I may have stressed him out from the pressure of moving and his job keeping him back and that he needed to finish and just fet back to me later. So I waited patiently. Msgd him everyday hoping hes see them and feel loved.
I begane to struggle financially since my emergency fund was nestled away where I couldnt really get it easily. So I decided to withdraw a portion of my investment/profit out of the mall since James wasn’t available to bail me out again. They said that because I had not completed 12 orders that my account was in review and I would not be able to withdraw more money than needed to fulfill future orders. Uhh. What? Okay. So I tried withdrawing money from vgp for the first time and they said because I made over 200% profit that I needed to pay 20% US taxes on it. And If i failed to pay it then they would be forced to donate all my earnings to their foundation and thank you. What?!?! I quickly went into a downward spiral and msged and called James frantically. No response. I googled anything O could think of, deep dove into our two month chats looking for clues on how to locate him. I found screenshots that gave me 2 email addresses ( alfredkant001@gmail.com ) ( morganmikeall221@gmail.com ) and I did something again I hadnt done since I first met him online…i reverse searched his images. This time I found one of the photos online!!!
I researched all morning and finally found him anddddd he’s a gay german interior designer/model/blogger on instagram by the name of Tobias. Fukkkkkkkkk!!!!!
I had previously thought, wow, James is sending me alot of photos and most of them are of him looking a bit ruff around the edges. It has to be real! I once asked him to send me a photo of him sending me a kiss. He quickly scoffed at that idea because hes a man. Uhmm, Ok.
Oh, I didnt mention why we never videochatted … well, he facetimed his father while he was driving when he was 15 and his father died in a car accident and it scarred him. Refuses to video ever since. And how dare I even consider triggering him so i left it alone. He insisted that all will be settled when he moves here. Hed buy a house under $800k where we’d all move in (our pets included) and travel for my birthday in June. Hed prove all my insecurities wrong. Sigh.
So I thought hmm okay. He lied about his photos because he was insecure. Ok. I get it. All good. I still love him. So I begged jim to talk to me that it was ok. No response. Figured he just muted me and all will be revealed when he comes back to me. Nothing yet. I emailed the 2 addresses, no response. I even checked out the instagram account (@alfred_ciao) attached to his shopeecn merchant page (Augen). Looks like it could be him. Msged him there. No response or activity for that matter and only like 20 posts and a few followers. Hmm. I also noticed that it said in his bio italy to australia. Is James actually Alfred. Is Alfred actually Italian and not Swedish? Nahh, I spoke to him in Swedish using a translator alot in the beginning and he told me of his favorite swedish meal and gave me his parents Swedish names (Eliana Nikolina Sundin and Danny Tornquist Paul). I still don’t know the truth.
So in retrospect I now see all the signs. I realise I messed up big time. And once I started talking to scam experts, I learned about the confidence/dating scams. I was lured into a false sense of security because I never gave him any money or my personal information. But ive lewrned thet its a network of people who work together and the goal is to get people to deposit money into their systems willingly and then fool the victims into thinking they now own cryptocurrencies when actually its all fake. So here I am…doing what I know how to do. Warning others. Here are the details:

- James Paul
- Birth: March 4, 1985
- Only child, father died in a car accident when he was 15 in Sweden
- Moved to Australia in 2018
- Parents names: Eliana Nikolina Sundin and Danny Tornquist Paul
- Currently resides in Sydney, Australia
- MBA and MCS
- Says he owns a cat named Leo who is 2.5 years old
- Not currently an Australian citizen, waiting on his application
- Has a job in importing and exporting slab materials like opal and sandstone to and from europe and australia
- Has invested in the coffee shop Two Black Sheep which has 2 locations in Sydney
- Says his mother lives in Melba, ACT and when she was younger lived in London and still has a british accent
- Says he wants to open a cafe in Canberra
- Suffers from anxiety and depression. Called me once crying and hysterical over what could be a guilty conscience.
- Has dreams of retiring at 40 and owning a large fancy home with a rooftop garden and travelling the world
- Says looks fade with age and that he only cares about the warmth and love his partner can give him
- Had his tonsils removed so he couldnt talk on the phone as he was healing
- Didnt give me his number because it was his work phone and he never uses it (guy thing)
- https://www.facebook.com/angela.lyman.75248 is the JAMES PAUL account. And all his “friends” seem to not actually know him. He previously had a profile picture of a ln asian woman and his profile says hes a woman and has a different Birthday. He said it was his ideal model, promptly removed it after teasing mendor being jealous and never addressed the bio info.
- He sent me a pic of his desktop screen and keyboard. On the screen i could see our chat and the previous chats from 30+ weeks prior. Most seemed like scam msgs. I didn’t read too much into is as i had already thought his account was hacked previously.
- I searched for alfred kant and found a similarly suspicious account that turned out to also have a stolen photo but this time from @blinovmi on instagram.
I could go on and on, but it’s only gonna depress me more. I still feel like I’m outing his private information and that I’m doing him a disservice. Hah. For all I know, every last detail I have of him could be fake. Smh. I post it so that if any of it resonates with a reader, or if someone googled this info then they can be forewarned.
Ive cried alll damn day. Ive gone thru the gamut of emotions, from feeling ashamed about how I got myself into this to feeling melancholy about my romantic and financial future. Honestly, I’m still just hoping that he was scammed as well and is real and just insecure about his appearance. But that sounds ridiculous. Smh. Sigh.
So where are we at now?
- I talked to the company mychargeback but they want me to pay out of pocket $600usd for them to start an investigation which may take 3-6 months, i declined and called my bank.
- I’ve started an investigation with my bank ( will take 6 weeks),
- ive reported our chats to facebook as a scam, ive messaged him obsessively on Facebook messenger to no response (says hes online but has not viewed the msgs),
- I have called via audio chat countless times ( it no longer rings, it now makes that sound when the other party doesnt have internet or frequency)
- His bio now says he’s lived in France and has removed his hometown and canberra altogether. So the scam continues. 🤦🏽♀️
- I wrote this blog post.



















I have reported to my bank, Binance, Coinspot, Badoo, law enforcement, and scamwatch. Now I’m left with my thoughts. I spent the entire day collating evidence to submit for investigation and now that that’s done, I’m left with my thoughts 😞
- Loneliness
- Embarassment
- Anger
- Disappointment
- Disillusionment
- Stress
- Worry
- Depression
- Shame
- Negative flashbacks where I analyse what waa said or done and how I should have known or what the cause could have been
I called BeyondBlue tonight and spoke to a counselor for 50mins. She said shes heard alot of stories about cyber crime and said that I shouldnt feel bad or alone about this because the scammers are goood at what they do and it happens more now than ever. She feared that I may turn these feelings and thoughts into PTSD which will exacerbate things. She suggested I continue to seek counseling to help me get thru this.
The worst part about this is… I KNOW better. I consider myself pretty cyber and street savvy and even I overlooked things and got caught up in the web of lies all in the name of love. I gave up sooo many personal details about me and my life. I wonder will he use it to lure others? To scam me again? (Which I heard happens). The details in the scam go soooooooo deep. I mean … seriously detailed.
I’m going to post some of the dialogue so people can get an idea of what I’m talking about.















